Entry 35 - Negative over a Positive

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July 2019

In life, we constantly shift from two perspectives, an optimistic one and a pessimistic one. A positive mindset and a negative one. You don't need to think negatively in order to stop thinking negatively. Actually having a positive mindset will do that for you. So trying to point out the negativity in others or in yourself you might think might help others, but I would argue that it's not as helpful as uplifting that person in the same amount of time. 

The time you spend pointing out the negative energy, you could've spent that same time talking about the other side of the coin and encouraging that behavior. When we dwell on mistakes in the past, it pulls us into the past and allows that negativity to affect us. Either creating remorse, pain, regret etc. Those times are best with God because we find complete and absolute forgiveness. But since time is already so short and our interactions are limited, we should strive to flood others with positivity, which has the ability to create more positivity.

I understand there will be times when you feel it's best to bring up something, even if it's negative. First you should try leading by example, second you should lean on prayer and encourage the person to do so also because there's a good chance you suffer in similar places as they do. Thirdly, you should flood that person with positivity, which will absolutely help them out. So last resort is if none of those things work out, and you're still being drained by their negativity, you can either leave and let someone else deal with it, or you can address it with a humble heart and use a 3:1 positive and negative ratio that address the behavior and does not attack the character of the person.

For every negative behavior you address, say three positive ones to reinforce and put the person's mind at ease that they are a good person. To reiterate, you aren't attacking their character, you're just addressing the behavior. This will help get your point across, but there's a good chance whatever you're saying which is negative about them has been something you've been negative about in the past, so be humble. But remember this is a last, last resort and shouldn't be used excessively or without much thought.

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